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    Beach13
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    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Fri Nov 13, 2020 9:16 pm

    Tonight. After feeling so spaced out first waking up this morning to becoming nauseated until I took more pills tonight and magically lost all the nausea. Had major surgery a week ago - and coming down off pain patches, recovering and dealing with major depression.
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    Peonie
    Moderator
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    Joined: Wed Aug 19, 2020 1:52 pm

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Sat Nov 14, 2020 9:53 am

    Hi Beach 13

    Peonie, one of the moderators here...checking in to see how you are this morning!
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    Leonarda
    Community Builder
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    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Sat Nov 21, 2020 5:32 pm

    Hi [mention]Frangipanijazz[/mention] just checking in to see how you are going? Has anything been working for you in terms of reducing your drinking or stopping - it's awesome for you to reach out here and get peer support. Support is sometimes THE way to start making a change - let us know how you're travelling and what's worked for you :)
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    Leonarda
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    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Sat Nov 21, 2020 5:34 pm

    Hi [mention]JA123#[/mention] how are you going? It's so brave to tell your story and sometimes when we see it down in writing it hits home and then we feel that we can maybe move towards making a change. Hope that you are treating yourself better - drinking doesn't make you a bad person but a person that needs help.. do you agree? :)
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    Morgan44
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Sun Nov 22, 2020 1:11 pm

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Sun Nov 22, 2020 1:17 pm

    Hey guys, I’m 25 and I’ve recently come to the realisation that I will never be able to drink in moderation. I have tried drinking the same types of alcohol, limiting myself to a certain number per night, filling up on non-alcoholic drinks before drinking, everything. It never works. I get anxiety if I don’t have enough booze to get drunk, I ask people to drive me to get more. Unless I’m passing out I won’t stop drinking. The past few weeks I’ve been drinking a lot more heavily (at the moment only on the weekend, but I have a history of drinking through the week as well). I’m realising it doesn’t matter what I try I will never have the kind of relationship with alcohol I’m craving because I don’t have a normal relationship with it. My intentions behind why I drink are not just to relax but to quite literally escape my own reality and that’s a big truth bomb to acknowledge among other things. I literally abandon myself every time I drink and I don’t want to treat myself like this any more. I’m ready for a change and even though I have relapsed every time I’ve tried to go sober in the past, I’m going to keep trying. Thank you for this forum, it’s amazing and inspiring to see everyone doing their best. Love you guys x
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    MalKumari
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    Joined: Mon Sep 21, 2020 1:23 pm

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Sun Nov 22, 2020 2:14 pm

    Hi [mention]Morgan44[/mention] :)

    Welcome to the forum! We are so glad you reached out to our forum and joined our community! :D

    It’s fantastic to see your knowledge on how to minimize your risk of harm and methods on how to cut down your consumption. It is also very apparent to me that you have a strong sense of self-awareness and are extremely driven to make this change!

    However, considering what you have said in your post, it might be useful to speak to a trusted GP to help you on your recovery, if you’re comfortable to do so. A GP will provide you with advice on how to cut down your consumption and ensure you do this in a safe way.

    Please keep updated on your story. We look forward to hearing about your journey!

    [mention]MalKumari[/mention]
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    Lady Bug
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    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Mon Dec 07, 2020 6:39 pm

    Hi [mention]Morgan44[/mention] [mention]Bgoodwin76[/mention] [mention]JA123#[/mention]

    Just checking in to see how you all have been travelling lately?
    Anyone struggling or need some extra support?
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    Koala_85
    Moderator
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    Joined: Tue Jan 22, 2019 11:19 am

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Mon Mar 08, 2021 9:21 pm

    Hi everyone welcome to tonight's Monday Meetup, our casual weekly catch up :) We will be live until 10pm AEST.

    Checking in with you to see how you went over the weekend?

    What are some tips or tricks you have for staying sober? Do you have much planned for the week?

    Tonight I thought we could focus on the concept of healthy ways to decrease stress.. what are some healthy distractions you might have which help reduce stress?
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    Keita
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Mon Mar 22, 2021 7:52 pm

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Wed Mar 24, 2021 9:34 pm

    I knew I had a problem with alcohol when it became the only thing I would turn to.
    Happy - Drink
    Sunny day - BBQ & drink
    Angry - FTW & drink
    Celebrate - Drink, drink, drink!

    I would find any excuse to drink. Any reason at all I would use it to drink. I was so reliant on alcohol, especially for socialising. I'm a naturally quiet and reserved person, so when I'm in a social setting I would use alcohol to make me socialable. Then I would find myself loosing control and binge drinking until I make myself look like an idiot.
    My turning point were my children. Hearing them retell the events from the night before and having no recollection of any of it made me feel ashamed, embarrased and ultimately scared. Knowing that my kids have seen me in a state that made them afraid of me made me realise that the same trauma I faced as a child, I was passing that trauma on to them. So here I am, admitting that I have a problem and I need to find a better solution. Not only for myself, but for my children as well.
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    TheDees
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    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Thu Mar 25, 2021 12:10 am

    Hi good on you for noticing you had a problem and saying it to yourself. It is a big step to be aware and admit it is a problem for you and interfering in your life. How do you feel now you have admitted it and reached out for support?
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    Deyfhob
    Member
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    Joined: Mon Apr 12, 2021 3:31 am

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Mon Apr 12, 2021 9:36 am

    When I celebrated the fact I didn’t use over the weekend so I rewarded myself by getting high
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 153
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Tue Apr 13, 2021 1:07 pm

    Hi @Morgan44,

    It was great reading your post, I related to what you said and I really empathize. I also take my hat off to you for jumping on here and opening up.

    I remember trying to manage my substance use in so many ways. Thinking that if I just restricted myself to certain times, with certain people, in certain ways that I could change the outcome. But much like yourself no matter what I did I would end up in the same place. I really like what you said about it coming down to motives as well. For me, using substances was my only way of feeling ok and my only coping mechanism for quite some time.

    The thing as well is that admitting that you can't control it or get away with drinking manageably is a really important first step to beginning a journey of recovery and its great that you have a desire to treat yourself better. It sounds like you know you're worth more and capable of something different.

    I'm interested in what you've tried before to get sober? Also, what you feel like has worked for you in the past and what you might need to do differently?

    If there's any questions you have around different supports you can access to help you along the way then don't be afraid to ask aswell :)
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Tue Apr 13, 2021 1:16 pm

    Hi @Frangipanijazz,

    I'm aware it's been quite some time since your post but a couple of things stuck out to me and I just wanted to touch base.

    Firstly, thank you for your honesty about what you've been through and what the reality is for you.

    I can relate to wiping myself out regularly and being dishonest to everyone, including myself to try and justify what I was doing. Then, like you said experiencing the guilt and shame of my behavior and wanting to wipe myself out all over again as not to feel that guilt and shame.

    The only way I was able to break this cycle was to first of all, be honest with myself and also by realizing that my feelings can't kill me and I don't have to reach for something outside of myself to change the way I feel.

    I'm wondering if you're still putting yourself through withdrawals to try and make it to later in the day before you start drinking? I guess I'd also like to know if you're aware of any of the risks involved with an alcohol detox, just out of concern for your safety? I'm wondering where you're at now, if you've seeked any help and if there's any support we can offer you here?
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    Minnie mouse
    Member
    Posts: 50
    Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2021 10:55 am

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Thu Apr 29, 2021 5:34 pm

    Random drug testing at work, 2 positive tests and now I will be lucky to keep my job😖
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    Craig PW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 95
    Joined: Thu Dec 03, 2020 1:35 pm

    Re: When did you recognise you had a problem?

    Thu Apr 29, 2021 9:58 pm

    Hi @Minnie mouse

    I know quite a few people who have jumped on the front foot and been to talk to their bosses about their problem. I'm not saying you'll definitely get a great result but some bosses are willing to work with their staff and help them through, provide time off to seek treatment and assist with time off for appointments and the like after treatment. They may even just give you some time off to go to counselling when required.
    It could just be worth a conversation and show that you're willing to get help and start doing something about the problem rather than let it ruin your employment
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