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    M6396J
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Sat Mar 14, 2020 10:37 pm

    Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Sun Mar 15, 2020 7:50 pm

    So I finally sought help from family from a drug addiction. And they have all been supportive but they also seem so distant. Honestly all I want to do is have dinner with my family or just sit with them. Not even talk, I just want to be around people and just feel for a moment not like a freak or a looser. I know I was the one that made the bad decisions, but like my world is already crumbling, all I kind of want is to not feel so alone. But every time I try and talk to them about letting me be around them, all I feel is regret. I feel like they are keeping things from me. Which is fine, I know I ruined their trust. But they all sit watching tv, or talk to each other, and I feel like I can’t initiate wanting to be around them, because iv already ruined so much of their lives. It’s also been like only a few days since opening up about an addiction, but like these have been the hardest few days iv ever had to experience and it sucks. iv never posted or said out loud a lot of these things, but does anyone have any advice? Literally sat here crying, when all I want is to be around another person. How do you get through the first few days of admitting a problem?
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    Koala_85
    Moderator
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    Joined: Tue Jan 22, 2019 11:19 am

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Mon Mar 16, 2020 2:47 pm

    Hi M6396J,

    Koala_85 here, (one of the moderators on the forum). Firstly welcome, its great that you've reached out and can share your situation with us on the forum.

    It sounds as though you're going through a lot at the moment, where the feelings you're experiencing are quite normal after disclosing something as personal as an addiction.

    You've shown tremendous strength in telling your family about your addiction where in most in instances it will be awkward before it gets better.

    If anyone on the forum can relate to M6396J, we would love to hear from you.

    Thanks for sharing your situation M6396J and look forward to your future posts :)

    Koala_85
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    Bugsy76
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2020 11:41 pm

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Thu Mar 26, 2020 12:19 am

    Hey I’m new here to. And I think just admitting your problem is a huge step. It’s so hard to explain to someone who isn’t an Addict why it’s so hard to stop just want to say we’ll do e on the first steps. Been ng honest with yourself and those closest to you is a huge achievement. 😃
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    Gizelle
    Member
    Posts: 33
    Joined: Fri Mar 27, 2020 9:19 am

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Sat Apr 04, 2020 9:59 am

    Yeah agree honesty with self and owning one's own addiction is a great starting point and a big relief 😌
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    Gizelle
    Member
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    Joined: Fri Mar 27, 2020 9:19 am

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Sun Apr 05, 2020 9:37 am

    Perhaps sitting in your own space among your family and sending them, and yourself thoughts of unconditional love and acceptance may help. I was absent from my family for a number of years and the dynamics were different when I returned. I have 7 brothers and sisters and each sibling had a different attitude towards me. Ranging from the moral high ground to very supportive.
    Be patient with them. Bring flowers or bake a cake. Doing loving gestures like this eventually shifts painful awkward relationships into more relaxed joyful relationships. I like baking and now my family associates me with lovingly made cakes... I try to be my best friend. Using mindfulness really helped me too.
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    MalKumari
    Junior Member
    Posts: 19
    Joined: Mon Sep 21, 2020 1:23 pm

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Tue Sep 22, 2020 10:19 am

    Hi [mention]M6396J[/mention]!

    I know it's been a minute but I just wanted to check up on you and see if your were doing okay. How have you been lately? Have you been taking care of yourself?

    Your bravery to discuss your experience both on this forum and with your family is empowering and I just want to ensure you're coping well!

    Please reach out to us and let us know how you are doing. We look forward to seeing you post!

    Take care

    MalKumari
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    Calvino01
    Community Builder
    Posts: 205
    Joined: Tue Jan 29, 2019 4:05 pm

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Tue Dec 01, 2020 6:35 pm

    Hi [mention]M6396J[/mention] Its been a while since we last heard from you ?
    How have things been going since you last shared with us? :)
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 153
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Recently Admitted I Have A Problem With Drugs and Iv Never Felt More Alone

    Fri May 28, 2021 2:39 pm

    Hi @M6396J, this post was so brave and I admire you getting vulnerable and reaching out for help when you were at a point that sounds like it was really hard.

    I remember the isolation I felt when I admitted to certain people that I had a problem and wanted to do something about it. It was like, all of a sudden people didn't want to be around me, didn't have the time of day for me and I felt very alone.

    Literally the only way through that I found, was 12 step groups in the community. Being around other people who were either in the same position as me, or had been and had found a way out helped me to feel like less of an alien and gave me hope that things would be ok.

    After some time in recovery, some of the people that were close to me through my addiction ended up forgiving me and felt safe to be close to me again. I had to acknowledge that my addiction had traumatised people close to me and I had to give them the time they needed to process and heal aswell. The only reason this was ok is because I was able to get support elsewhere, otherwise I don't know how I would have gotten through.

    I am wondering how you are now, as I realised you posted this quite some time ago?

    I hope to hear from you on here again or that you have found some support and most of all, that you're not alone. And if you are, just know that you don't have to be.
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