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    Ningnong
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Wed Apr 15, 2020 12:47 am

    Is it possible to facilitate change without full-disclosure?

    Wed Apr 15, 2020 8:21 am

    My addiction to meth, coupled with a severe gambling addiction, has led me down paths I am too ashamed to admit. I have lied, stolen, been unfaithful in my marriage by trading sex for either money or drugs. I've done this all in secret. I am sick to my stomach with myself. I can not begin to describe to level of self-disgust, shame and guilt I feel.
    I truly want to change. I want to end this 13 year struggle with meth. But these feelings never go away. They have a devastating effect on my self-esteem and my self-worth which only causes me to use more. I have been struggling for so long living so many different existences - mother, wife, student, friend,family member/addict,criminal,cheater,hooker
    I could never, EVER come clean to my husband or my family. But I know I need to disclose these things I have done so that I can process them and move forward. So that I can stop letting them justify the feelings that underpin my using.
    Do you think it's possible to recover from the scars of your misdeeds which you committed during active addiction without full-disclosure?
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    Strugglingmethaddict
    Junior Member
    Posts: 5
    Joined: Wed May 20, 2020 6:51 pm

    Re: Is it possible to facilitate change without full-disclosure?

    Wed May 20, 2020 9:19 pm

    I would say disclosing all the things that weigh on your consicness in the confidence of your councillor if you feel you must, if you truley can tell yourself that your done with that life and want to move on and grow from it then you also have the right to not let it crush your self worth. I have been an addict for nearly two years and the disarray its led me too plus mixing with people who are known users and dealers i think has hurt my reputation, all these things have created a sence of degraded self worth but i am hoping to focus on positive thoughts and build a new better life, so yes you have the right to move on and not let your mistakes destroy your self worth but the question of do you need full disclosure for recovery is something only you with councillor can answer.
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    MalKumari
    Community Builder
    Posts: 18
    Joined: Mon Sep 21, 2020 1:23 pm

    Re: Is it possible to facilitate change without full-disclosure?

    Tue Sep 22, 2020 11:05 am

    Hi @Ningnong,

    Thank you for sharing your post. Your courage to share your truth is beautiful!

    How are you? How are things with you lately? Have you been better coping with your situation well?

    It is very normal for people get lost in addiction and do things that they regret. Speaking your truth to your family and friends is one of the most challenging aspects of recovery and addiction. I'm sure some members can relate to this. Know that, there is no shame in your story. Your journey is unique to you and I hope you heal from the adversities you have faced.

    Please reach out to us again. Our members and I would love to know how you are and know if you are okay!

    Hope to hear from you soon.

    MalKumari
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    forest
    Community Builder
    Posts: 14
    Joined: Mon Sep 21, 2020 1:40 pm

    Re: Is it possible to facilitate change without full-disclosure?

    Tue Sep 22, 2020 11:11 am

    Hi @Ningnong! How have you been going?

    It's great to see the support from @Strugglingmethaddict in this post, you're right about aiming to focus on positives and the future during recovery! Connecting with a specialist drug counsellor is a great idea and that's something you can do via the chat service if you feel comfortable https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/ho ... counsellor. In the meantime, please let us know how you've been travelling and continue to support each other and the rest of the community via the forums :)

    forest
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