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    Taries
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Tue Jan 28, 2020 2:35 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Tue Jan 28, 2020 2:40 am

    Hi my name is Trish and my mother is addicted to methamphetemine and I just found out she was addicted to cocaine before I was born, she’s hooked up with a guy down the road I don’t like due to his behaviour and choices etc and they have a vindetta out for me she’s kicked me out the house I just got paid off for her, they have put vros on me and made me breach them, and she has it in her head I’m going to put her in a home and steal her house. Anyhow they have just destroyed by dream of becoming a social worker, 3 years I had don’t and now as I have breaches to my name I can’t get a clearance for practice this year. It’s an evil drug, I have no other family either it was just me and mum.
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    Cat7
    Moderator
    Posts: 105
    Joined: Thu May 09, 2019 10:52 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Tue Jan 28, 2020 8:58 am

    Hi @Taries,
    I'm sorry to hear things have been so difficult for you recently. I can hear your mothers drug use and choices have had such a big impact on your own well being, Are there some things that you do to try to look after yourself or would like to start doing?

    I hope you find this community gives you some support and please keep us updated on how you are travelling

    Cat7
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    ClaireM
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Fri Apr 24, 2020 7:32 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Fri Apr 24, 2020 7:39 pm

    Hi
    My name is Claire. My husband suffers from depression and anxiety and is using alcohol to soothe himself. He blames me for everything and will always try to start arguments (especially on a Friday night). At first, I got sucked in the arguments, then I ignored the argument and tried to support him but he would then ignore me and push me away to trigger me and push me to the edge. Now, I just ignore him completely. I don't know if it is helping because he increases the drinking and tries anything to trigger me. A couple of days later, he realises what happens, apologises, says that he doesn't want to feel like that anymore, then a week later, we are back to square 1. It is draining and I am drifting away from him.
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    izy3
    Moderator
    Posts: 68
    Joined: Thu May 09, 2019 3:20 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Tue Apr 28, 2020 12:31 pm

    Hi @ClaireM , Welcome to this forum!

    I am one of the moderators on this forum. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
    It sounds very frustrating and disappointing with your husband drinking more lately and blaming you for it.
    I get your feeling drained that you cannot see any change in him but end up arguing with him so many times.

    Some people find it helpful to write a letter about how they are feeling and affected by their loved ones' substance use.
    Also reaching out for support by calling Family Drug Help (Inc drinking) may be helpful. (on 1300 660 068)

    I hope you will feel supported and understood on this forum and get some useful advice from other members.
    Please continue to share how you are doing with us here.
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    ameb86
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Sun Jul 19, 2020 2:11 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sun Jul 19, 2020 2:21 pm

    Hello,

    I am A. , a mother of a gorgeous 3 year old toddler, who is autistic and has other special needs. I work part time, and also care for my son full time.

    I am in a relationship with a drug addict - meth and marijuana. He was sober for nearly 2 years, and then fell off the wagon. I had to kick him out for me and my son (and my boyfriend to be honest), and he’s now been gone for nearly 2 months. He’s been using pretty heavily during that time - and leans this way and that about whether he’s going to stop.

    It’s been very hard on me - He says he still loves me and intends on coming back, but I don’t know when.

    I try not to hope too much, and put expectations on him - I understand it’s not in my control, nor is it my fault, but it’s just so hard...

    I hope you are all coping as best as you can.
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    Koala_85
    Moderator
    Posts: 62
    Joined: Tue Jan 22, 2019 11:19 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sun Jul 19, 2020 5:41 pm

    Hi Ameb86,

    Its Koala_85 (one of the moderators on the forum). You've shown great strength in accessing the forum today and can understand how you're feeling stressed and concerned right now. It sounds like a really difficult time regarding your partners drug issues and how its affecting you and your family right now, where we're here for your support.

    You've done the right thing in seeking support on the Counselling Online Forum and encourage you to continue to post to connect with others.

    We look forward to your future posts.

    Regards,

    Koala_85.
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    Skafloc
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Sun Jul 26, 2020 11:30 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sun Jul 26, 2020 11:51 am

    Hey, I'm Kym. I met a wonderful girl a few months back. We hit it off straight away and I found myself falling in love with her. I'm 61 and she is 48. I must admit I am a totally naive with drug culture, only using some weed years ago.

    Things were a bit weird with our relationship, she often called very late at night, like 2.00 AM, or I would get a knock at the door from her at 4.30 AM wanting to jump into bed with me. When she did come earlier she would want sex until 2.00/3.00 AM. I had to go to work next day but she didn't. At first it was different and funny, she would often make a huge meal at 2.00 AM, or get up and clean the house.

    After staying with me for a few days she would disappear for a week or two, not answering her phone. She would blame her old phone but while staying with me her phone would constantly ring or beep.

    She has a small frame, is a size 6 and her hair is very thin, she told me she hasn't had a haircut for 6 years. I had though that this was just her but I saw a picture of her from 7 years ago and it was a different person. She had a fatter face and looked different.

    Well after meeting my parents and kids two weeks ago she disappeared again. I asked around and found out that she was a meth user. When she answered her phone she said her phone had broke, she had gone to Adelaide with her parents because her Dad was sick. She often used this excuse.

    I went to her house, she stays with her brother. He told me that she didn't go to Adelaide and that her mother had been trying to call her for a week. He also told me is rarely there, sleeping at friends.

    I love her and miss her but what do I do? Do I run for the hills? I want to help her and I've told her. I'm concerned that she is doing things for meth and she is mixing with some evil people.
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    I-am-zoom
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Sun Jul 26, 2020 10:27 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sun Jul 26, 2020 11:58 pm

    Hi there. My partner is a long time (heavy) cannabis user and sees no problem with it.
    I am an illustrator and enjoy a variety of other creative endeavours as well.
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    Bamboo [facilitator]
    Community Manager
    Posts: 75
    Joined: Mon Jun 15, 2020 7:46 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Mon Jul 27, 2020 8:18 pm

    Hi @I-am-zoom welcome to forums, thanks so much for sharing a bit about yourself :)

    Wow an illustrator, that's cool. How long have you been doing this for? I can definitely appreciate anything creative.

    I also saw your other post, checking in to see how things are going with your partner?
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    chenille
    Community Builder
    Posts: 14
    Joined: Mon Sep 21, 2020 1:17 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Tue Sep 22, 2020 10:29 am

    hey @Skafloc ,

    It sounds like you've had an incredibly difficult time, it can be really hard seeing someone you care struggling.

    Maybe others in the forums have had similar experiences and may be able to share some advice?

    Looking forward to hearing how you are, and how the past few months have been.

    Chenille
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    tacocat
    Community Builder
    Posts: 33
    Joined: Tue Aug 18, 2020 9:54 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sat Oct 24, 2020 7:32 pm

    Hi @Teddy123

    Welcome to the forum! Glad to have you here. Please feel free to share and contact us if you need any help 8-)
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    Boloum
    Junior Member
    Posts: 6
    Joined: Sat Oct 24, 2020 4:06 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - friends and family

    Sun Oct 25, 2020 10:26 pm

    Hello1612 wrote:
    Mon Apr 15, 2019 8:35 pm
    Hi Guys,
    I’m not sure if I’m posting this in the right place. My name is Kate and my boyfriend of 2 years is a “former” heroin addict and is on the methadone program. Unfortunately, I found out this week that he has been using. I’m so out of my depth with anything drug related and I’m not sure what steps I need to take to help him. I want to be supportive and understanding but I have no idea where to start. I’m hoping someone in this forum can draw on their personal experiences and give me some advice.

    Thanks so much
    Hi hello 1612 I hope you are ok xx
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