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    EllenMax
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    Joined: Sun May 15, 2022 5:16 pm

    I drink and get away with it.

    Sun May 15, 2022 5:31 pm

    I drink because it hasn’t had any major impact on my life. I spend money on drinking because I don’t have major expenses, I’ve done uni assignments hungover on a Sunday and received a good grade, I’ve landed jobs and internships while doing interviews hungover. If I can get away with living a normal life and binge drinking all the time it’s hard to find a reason to stop.

    I get out of control every time, and blow through so much money, but I’m fortunate to know another pay check is coming anyway. Some nights I go out with $150 and have a good night out on cheap beer, some nights I blow through $600+ on cocktails, gambling and occasionally strippers. It doesn’t feel like money matters and I just want the experience alcohol brings. Even if I just have a bottle of wine with a friend I end up drinking the entire bottle.

    I want to stop because I’m starting a new chapter in my life, I’m moving towns, I landed a job Im really passionate about, and I don’t want to bring my drinking habits with me. I’m worried I’ll continue and begin to see real consequences. I’m scared of I don’t stop I’ll lose this new job or blow through every pay check on partying.
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    Malibu
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    Joined: Mon Aug 24, 2020 10:03 am

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Mon May 16, 2022 10:39 am

    Thank you EllenMax for your thoughtful and insightful post.

    Welcome to this forum and for sharing your thoughts on your issue with alcohol.

    I think there always comes a time when our past behaviours now do not reflect on our current lifestyle and this is called a developed 'Maladaptive Behaviour'.

    Responsibilities change with age and our positions in life and I think your are mindful of your changing goals in life and the need to ditch previous behaviours that now tend to impeded our progression in life.

    All this is totally normal and terribly human my friend.

    I'm sure others in this forum have experienced exactly the same need to change and the start of change is admitting we have a problem and looking for supports to help continue the change..

    You are on the pathway to change and I believe this forum will support you along the way.

    Again welcome and thanks for your honest and open initial post.
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Jun 01, 2021 3:14 pm

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Thu Aug 11, 2022 9:39 pm

    Hi @EllenMax ..................I'm not sure you'll see this or if you're still around the forums but I'm wondering how you've got on with making the changes you wanted to???

    It's great that you can recognise you want to make change. I used to live paycheck to paycheck and partying all the time. I thought I was having fun but eventually realised I wasn't really living life. Friends of mine were going on holidays, buying cars, saving for houses and buying things they wanted but I was just in a cycle of partying. It didn't fulfill me and eventually stopped being fun. I used to think I was getting away with it but these days I question whether I really did................or what it was I thought I was getting away with.

    That lifestyle gets exhausting and used to wear me down. I'm hoping your new job is going well
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    ShawnK
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Tue Nov 22, 2022 7:01 pm

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Tue Nov 22, 2022 7:09 pm

    PnorkelPW wrote:
    Thu Aug 11, 2022 9:39 pm
    Hi @EllenMax ..................I'm not sure you'll see this or if you're still around the forums but I'm wondering how you've got on with making the changes you wanted to???

    It's great that you can recognise you want to make change. I used to live paycheck to paycheck and partying all the time. I thought I was having fun but eventually realised I wasn't really living life. Friends of mine were going on holidays, buying cars, saving for houses and buying things they wanted but I was just in a cycle of partying. It didn't fulfill me and eventually stopped being fun. I used to think I was getting away with it but these days I question whether I really did................or what it was I thought I was getting away with.

    That lifestyle gets exhausting and used to wear me down. I'm hoping your new job is going well
    I used to live from party to party, too. And it suited me fine. I thought that was what life was all about. Until one day I noticed that my body began to age, my face began to age, I could no longer stand the physical exertion that I used to. And that's when I started to wonder. And that led me to severely limit the amount of partying and alcohol.
    Last edited by ShawnK on Fri Dec 02, 2022 11:32 pm, edited 2 times in total.
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Jun 01, 2021 3:14 pm

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Thu Nov 24, 2022 8:43 pm

    That’s cool you were able to come to that realisation @ShawnK ……….sometimes people don’t realise until it’s too late.

    Alcohol is really destructive on the body but a lot of it’s hidden and goes unnoticed. Because it’s legal as well there’s a school of thought that it’s relatively harmless. The internal damage it causes to the organs is actually largely underestimated and you’re right…………it does have an ageing effect.

    How are you going with limiting your alcohol intake these days?

    What’s worked for you when trying make these changes?

    What differences have you noticed since you started cutting down?
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    ShawnK
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Tue Nov 22, 2022 7:01 pm

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Fri Dec 02, 2022 11:31 pm

    PnorkelPW wrote:
    Thu Nov 24, 2022 8:43 pm
    That’s cool you were able to come to that realisation @ShawnK ……….sometimes people don’t realise until it’s too late.

    Alcohol is really destructive on the body but a lot of it’s hidden and goes unnoticed. Because it’s legal as well there’s a school of thought that it’s relatively harmless. The internal damage it causes to the organs is actually largely underestimated and you’re right…………it does have an ageing effect.

    How are you going with limiting your alcohol intake these days?

    What’s worked for you when trying make these changes?

    What differences have you noticed since you started cutting down?
    The starting point for me was that I refused to associate with toxic people. I used to notice that I couldn't deal with the negative emotions I had after interacting with toxic people. But I eliminated them from my life. I've gotten better at coping!
    Now my need for alcohol is 1.5 liters of good, delicious beer on Fridays. I just don't want any more, rather than restricting myself. I drink it for pleasure. No more than that. That's not a problem, is it?
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Jun 01, 2021 3:14 pm

    Re: I drink and get away with it.

    Mon Dec 05, 2022 9:18 pm

    Sounds like you've made some good decisions about who you're surrounding yourself with @ShawnK............it's amazing how much of a difference that makes.

    In answer to your question of whether your drinking is okay there's only one person who can answer that............you.

    Some people can make changes to their drinking and maintain that change and everything is okay. Some people can't. I fall into the category of people who tried everything they could to control their drinking but could never maintain it. My drinking would always escalate and I never had any control. The unfortunate thing is that the only way I discovered that was by trying over and over again.

    What I'd encourage you to do is to keep track of whether you're able to maintain the changes you're making. If you start to notice that things are escalating or that you're having more problems because of your drinking then it might be time to start looking at what other changes you can try.

    There's plenty of people who only drink on Fridays or stop and start when they want to. It'd be great if you could stay in touch and let us know how things are going and if you want to bounce some ideas or thoughts around we're always here.
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