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    This is a space visited by peer workers who have a lived experience of addiction and recovery and is an opportunity to relate to and draw hope from those who have been through similar things as you.
    Minnie mouse
    Member
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    Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2021 10:55 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Tue May 18, 2021 10:51 am

    Result will be sent to work and HR having a phone appointment with GP this arvo, so gotta wait for their decision on process of return to work. I think/hope they will make a quick decision, probably be on daily testing for a while which is fine. Keeping my job is a good incentive for me to stay clean. I will keep saying thank you to you guys for the support you have given me, and will keep you updated on the work situation. I was sooo happy this morning I gave my doctor a hug.
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
    Posts: 553
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Tue May 18, 2021 11:20 am

    @Minnie mouse 100% keeping your job is a fantastic incentive! I'm really happy to hear that this space has been useful, but you're the one who has been putting in the hard yards so be proud of yourself! Please do keep us updated :D
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 369
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu May 20, 2021 9:35 am

    You hit the nail on the head @Craig PW, Acceptance!

    Accepting the reality and not trying to fight it made detoxing so much easier for me...just surrendering to the fact that I'd ended up where I did and that I wasn't gonna try to control it or convince myself that I had it all figured out. That real moment of knowing I needed help and my way of doing things just kept ending me up in the same lonely, isolated, sick and volatile state.

    I've always found it interesting that most of the time, we won't make a decision to change until we are so beaten by everything that we feel we don't have any other choice. I can look back and see how much easier certain things would have been if I had come to that place of acceptance earlier. Now I carry that through and can live in a way that is much more open minded and where I can make decisions to change things before reaching the bitter end of a certain pattern of behaviour or way of thinking. What's been your experience with acceptance in recovery @Craig PW?

    That's such good news @Minnie mouse! I think it just goes to show it's amazing what can happen when you get the courage to be honest and do the next right thing. I'm so happy that things are looking up at work for you :)
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    Minnie mouse
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    Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2021 10:55 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu May 20, 2021 4:27 pm

    @ScorpionPW @Craig PW Just got a call from HR at my work😊Starting back on Monday morning. I am totally stoked 😊Thank you all again so much for the support and advice. I will be seeing my psychologist again in 2 weeks and then GP to get a mental health plan in place. And also continue to drop in here from time to time just to say hi and let you know how I'm going, xxx🙏
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
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    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu May 20, 2021 5:08 pm

    @Minnie mouse That's great to hear you're back on Monday! I'm so happy that you've found the forum useful, it's also great to hear you're getting a mental health plan in place. You should be so proud of yourself! Keep us updated with how it is being back!! :D
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    Craig PW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 95
    Joined: Thu Dec 03, 2020 1:35 pm

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu May 20, 2021 8:36 pm

    That's rad @Minnie mouse !!!

    The result, the connection with GP, HR returning you to work...........all of it!!!

    Thanks for keeping us posted.........this is the stuff that honestly gives me a boost!! I've had a really busy day and have been a bit stuck in my head thinking about me, me, me................hearing this bloody fantastic news has really flicked a switch for me and I'm absolutely stoked for you!!

    I'm even more stoked to hear that you're not just stopping at this point..........that you've got more appointments booked ahead to help you keep moving forwards. Keep making the necessary appointments and doing whatever you need to do to look after yourself.

    One foot in front of the other............and please keep checking in.........if you need support we're here............and DirectLine is on 1800 888 236 to speak to someone 24hours a day

    Thank you!!
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    Minnie mouse
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    Re: Why do you want change?

    Fri May 21, 2021 7:24 am

    @Craig PW Thanks Craig, Since taking the cannabis blanket off and talking to my psychologist I've realized why I was using. I have a lot of issues with trauma from the past which I really need to work through. It's time I learned some new coping strategies without turning to the weed. Old dogs can learn new tricks 😁🐶
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 369
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Fri May 21, 2021 9:14 am

    Woohoo! That's such great news @Minnie mouse :D

    It's been such a privilege to witness the journey you've shared with us, what you've realised and how things are looking very different than when you first logged on and started reaching out on here.

    Old dogs can learn new tricks indeed! Recovery is possible, always.

    Look forward to hearing how you progress from here :)
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    Peace Dove
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    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:22 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Sun May 30, 2021 6:05 pm

    Hey @Scotland123, thought you might like to read this thread.
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    mcdonaldadrienne
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Mon Dec 13, 2021 11:12 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Mon Dec 13, 2021 11:13 am

    I think that it's good when a person wants to change . This only makes us stronger. So there is nothing terrible in that. Personally, I have realized that I've made several mistakes in my life that drastically had changed it in the wrong way. For instance, I worked night shifts for an extended period, and now I have trouble sleeping. Still, I am really working on myself because I want to change. I am trying to keep a healthier life, and more importantly, I asked for help. I called the therapists from fherehab.com . So if you want to change, everything is possible. You just have to believe in yourself and sometimes ask for help.
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 456
    Joined: Tue Jun 01, 2021 3:14 pm

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Mon Dec 13, 2021 10:01 pm

    Hi @mcdonaldadrienne and thanks for sharing your thoughts..............welcome aboard!

    I've heard it said often that shift work in general is really bad for people who live with addiction. Night shift only adds to the difficulty and I know from my many years in hospitality doing split shifts, late shifts, early shifts and everything in between it did not go well for me. The thing that suffered most was my sleep and a few years later I still haven't managed to nail a good sleep routine. I keep saying I'm going to work on it and I do for a short time but just never maintain it. I am in the process of trying to address this again and start improve my overall wellbeing in the process.

    I know from past attempts that I feel better physically, mentally and emotionally when I'm sleeping properly. It's easier to get up in the morning and exercise and it's actually better for weight loss and weight maintenance when getting enough sleep.

    I love that you've reached out and asked for help. Lots of people are able to identify the problems but finding the solutions isn't as easy and we all need help to find the right solutions. I hope you can continue to ask for help as you try to make these positive changes to your life.

    Keep believing in yourself and if you have any questions about anything, myself and @ScorpionPW are the Peer Workers here on the forums and we've walked our own paths through addiction and recovery. We're more than happy to share our experiences and offer our help and support any way we can. Just tag us in your post and we'll get a notification so we can respond.
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Mon Dec 20, 2021 9:27 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing that @mcdonaldadrienne, I love how you highlighted the important thing being that you asked for help.

    I think that for all of us, we have to go to different lengths and go through different journeys to end up in a place where we are ready for change. At the end of the day, for myself anyway, I know that I can't control my addiction, that myself alone am not more powerful than it is. One thing that really helped me in the beginning was hearing that I am not responsible for my addiction but I am responsible for my recovery.

    It's not my fault that when I put a drug into my body I have a response where I want more and once that switch is flipped I can't control the compulsion. It is however, my responsibility to work my recovery into my life now that I know that there is a solution. If I'm not more powerful than my addiction then I have to build and maintain a recovery that is stronger than my addiction. A big part of that is not doing it alone...asking for help, being guided and being willing to do whatever it takes to not pick up again is why I have the life I do today.

    It would be great to hear how you're travelling now and any thing you've picked up along the way that has helped you :D Have you ever been to any support groups before?
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    Costapo
    Junior Member
    Posts: 6
    Joined: Thu Dec 23, 2021 12:13 pm

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu Dec 23, 2021 12:28 pm

    Hi guys sorry I’m new to this online chat stuff but just wanted to make some changes in the way alcohol is consumed. It’s either all or nothing for me, don’t know my limits when going out with the boys to the pub and also at family events or just at home. Once I get the taste for it, it doesn’t stop. It has finally come to my wife and kids being fed up with the way I act in front of them and the trust factor has gone out of our marriage when I go out.
    I’m a social person and love being around people and having a drink and would like to know what measures anyone has put in place to drink slower and enjoy the company and not abuse alcohol and purely just enjoy it.
    Most importantly I want to gain the trust back in our marriage and be a better husband and father when consuming or limiting the alcohol intake. Any help or guidance is appreciated
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    izy3
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    Joined: Thu May 09, 2019 3:20 pm

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu Dec 23, 2021 12:43 pm

    Hi @Costapo , welcome to this forum!
    It seems you find it difficult to stop/control drinking once started. Yes especially now during this festive season there may be more social occasions coming up.
    Some people find it helpful to have some fizzy non-alcoholic drink between drinks to pace yourself, to get support from your friends and family to help you monitor the amount etc.
    Is there anything that you have tried before and was helpful? Also anyone has got advice or strategies which may be useful?
    Welcome board again Castapo.
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    Costapo
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Thu Dec 23, 2021 12:13 pm

    Re: Why do you want change?

    Thu Dec 23, 2021 1:28 pm

    Hi@izy3 have tried all sorts of things from keeping bottle tops in my pocket and counting ever hour, just having light beer and no spirits, even gave up for around 3 months but slipped back in the habit. I have now tried the non alcoholic based beers which seems fine as I think it is the taste of alcohol I’m craving not the feeling of being blind out of my mind.
    I keep saying that I will control my consumption to my wife but yet keep slipping back in to not knowing when enough is enough to tip me over the edge of being drunk. She is fed up with all the empty promises of me trying to get control or even weeding it out of my life, but my life is quite social and it is a part of my life.
    I would love to have a wine with her over dinner or when we go out and even a beer with my boys, but as she doesn’t really drink or not that social, our lives and circle of friends are quite different.
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