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Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2022 8:25 pm
by PnorkelPW
Hi @NailSalad @GO ME @pliam744 @Lunatuna @Jimiswalls @adamkopek @HMP @DjangoMan @Eric and Heidi @reillysavage @tanne123 @Elowe333 @Thalandria @af @Carlos @Thyme @Enthusiastic Spike @Mike555 ………………I’m just wondering how you’ve been finding the forums?

Have you found anything helpful on the forums so far?

What were you hoping to find by joining here?

Is there any support or advice we can offer?

Do you have any questions???

I know sharing on here can feel quite confronting. Not everyone is ready to share their story or even part of their story so I thought these questions might help……………and it might help us understand how we can support you. @ScorpionPW and I have both battled addiction over the years and are more than happy to share our experiences of addiction, recovery, lapse, relapse, and anything that happened along the way.

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2022 12:49 am
by SH2
Hi Everyone,

Lovely to virtually meet you all and read all your stories. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable as it’s not an easy thing to do!

I have recently (as of tonight) signed up as I want to significantly reduce my consumption of alcohol. I actually think I need to stop drinking for now altogether.
I’m not ok with the amount I have been drinking and the way it’s impacted my anxiety and overall health.

I have children and I want to be the best mother I can be. I try so hard to hide my drinking as I hold so much shame around it.

My anxiety, life stresses and PTSD from a number of incidents from adolescence to now has slowly but surely caused me to drink more to numb my emotions and now I’m drinking 4 bottles of wine a week on average. I don’t really go out, it’s just at home which i think is actually worse then drinking socially.
I have never felt worse physically and mentally.

I’m determined to change, I know I can achieve so much more in life without alcohol. This is my first step. I don’t know if AA is something I should try out or feel comfortable doing but I need something or someone to help me stay accountable.

Thank you for allowing me to share my story & I look forward to connecting via the forum with you all soon.

😊❤️🙏

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2022 12:53 am
by SH2
Forgot to add - I love to be creative and enjoy interior decorating

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2022 11:13 am
by Sunflowerseed
Hi there @SH2,
Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your story!
It's great to hear you are determined to change and taken the first step towards that. I have included some information about Smart Recovery (a similar service as AA) in the welcome email we sent you. Let us know by @ myself or @Lhiver if you need more information. We also have peer workers (@ScorpionPW and @PnorkelPW) here to support you all.
Keep us posting about your journey! :)

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:52 am
by Lhiver
good morning and welcome to @Lyrebird88 @Gunners1980 @Green grass @Fu-chur !

I hope you find this community a welcoming and comfortable place for you to find connect during your recovery journey!

If you have any questions or need some extra support, feel free to tag myself or at @Sunflowerseed

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2022 1:32 pm
by Zorra
Hi everybody 1:30 in the afternoon still in my pj's in and out of bed don't feel like doing anything suffer from depression drink way too much physically I'm unfit and away overweight. My mum passed away last year from alcoholism she was 59.. grown-up around alcohol and drugs now I'm 42 thankfully I don't take any drugs but as I said drink way too much I have an amazing family supportive husband and teenage kids don't understand why I drink so much as I have so much to lose that it's not the example that I want to sit for my kids I looked in the mirror and don't even know who the person is looking back but it is starting to resemble a picture of my mum. I need to get some help as I know that this is not the life that I want to live I am a full-time artist I love to garden I have two amazing dogs I don't really have too many hobbies and I do get bored very easily I wish I could say I have heaps of friends but I don't probably just one good one I find that my job takes me away from being able to socialise and I find it hard to find happiness and I know that this is something that you create but I thought also find that the alcohol worsens my depression or am I depressed because I drink alcohol that's always a question I asked anyway long post just wanted to get that off my chest xxxx

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2022 3:34 pm
by Sunflowerseed
Good afternoon~
Let's welcome @Teak-85, @CSJR4312, @Melwayne, @Mel69, @Elm1982 for joining the forums!
This is a safe place for you to share your story and get the support you might need. Myself and @Lhiver are the facilitators here. We also have two resourceful peer workers helping us, @ScorpionPW and @PnorkelPW. Feel free to @ any of us in your post if you are looking for any information or support, or just to say hi~
Looking forward to hear from you soon~

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2022 4:14 pm
by Sunflowerseed
Hi @Zorra,
Welcome to the forum. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
It is not easy to grow up with someone who was affected by alcohol so much and realized yourself are in similar situation. The good thing is you realized it and wanting to make a change and become a better self. It takes courage to do this. So well done!
You can always share with us in this forum, we will try our best to help you. I have included some information about some services you can access in the welcome email we sent you. Let us know if you want more information in anything.
Keep us updated in your journey~

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2022 9:40 pm
by ScorpionPW
Hi @SH2,

Thanks so much for sharing and letting us know where you're at.

It sounds like you've reached a place where you could really catch the moment to begin some real change for yourself.

I remember feeling like I need to cut down, manage my drinking and using or find a way to do it more manageably for a long time. It eventually reached a point where I realised I needed to completely stop everything. This was a scary realisation because I'd relied on substances for so long to feel ok in the world and I didn't know how I would manage without them. I tried to hide my using a lot as well to try not to worry those close to me. It's such an important point that you raise too around the reasons that you turned to drinking to self medicate. I can really relate to that stuff and uncovering my reasons for turning to substances helped me see the things that I was going to have to face and find new ways to cope with in recovery.

Going to 12 step meetings like NA and AA helped me so much. Just being around people who understood what I was going through because they were going through it or had been through it themselves helped me to not feel alone. Also, creating new connections and building a recovery community and support network around me was vital for me to stay stopped which 12 step meetings allowed me to do as well. I would definitely recommend trying a few different meetings and seeing how it resonates with you.

It would also be a good idea to see your GP about how to detox safely if you're wanting to stop completely as detoxing from alcohol cold turkey can hold a lot of risks. My GP really helped me to learn and understand what the safest option was for me to detox based on where I was at and the resources I had.

I hope you continue to reach out and remember, we're always here if you want to have a chat or bounce anything off after checking some meetings out :)

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2022 9:05 pm
by PnorkelPW
Hi @SH2 ……….wonderful to virtually meet you too!

It sounds like you’ve been doing a lot of thinking about your drinking and the effects it’s having on your overall wellbeing. Drinking can help to numb the emotions but it doesn’t actually take it away and I found that things just built up and got worse over time.

You used the word “accountable” and I think that’s really important when trying to make change. I know how badly I wanted change for a long time. I managed it for short periods of time but I was never able to maintain it. AA helped me with stay accountable and I wouldn’t be where I am in my recovery without it so I can only suggest that you give it a try but not everyone connects with AA. You might like to try SMART Recovery as another option.

I’d also recommend seeing a drug and alcohol counsellor. They’ll be able to help you identify some strategies specific to your needs and situation. There is no “one solution fits all” when it comes to making change to your alcohol intake so the more you can try the better position you’ll be in to find out what works for you. For me, I needed to stop drinking all together because cutting down never worked. By trying different things you’ll be able to figure out what you need.

Stopping my drug and alcohol intake altogether has allowed me to reach potential that I never could have imagined, I’m hoping that when you make the changes you want to make you’ll achieve your goals. Setting goals is a great way to stay accountable top because all your decisions are geared around achieving your goals. You said you enjoyed being creative……….what creative goals do you have??

It’d be great to hear how things progress for you and we’re always here to support however we can.

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2022 9:34 pm
by ScorpionPW
Hi @Zorra,

Thanks so much for sharing with us and thank you for being so honest and open about where you're at.

I can remember feeling like I was in such a hole that I didn't know if the substances I was using, including alcohol was the cause of my external problems or if it was just external problems leading me to use substances to cope. Part of that was depression and anxiety as well. It was kind of like what came first, the chicken or the egg?

In the end I realised that to get any clarity around this I had to get clean, try to find a new way to live without substances and hope that things would become more clear from there. It was not an easy road but this certainly ended up being the case. After stopping, having the right support around me and spending some time in recovery, my mental health struggles got a lot easier and I was able to develop a new relationship with myself and the world around me.

I'm curious if anything you've read here on the forums has resonated with you and if you're at a stage where you're thinking about seeking some supports to try and change something or if you just need to touch base about where you're at to lighten the load a little?

Either way, we're always here if you ever need to chat so I hope you continue to reach out here on the forums :)

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2022 9:38 pm
by PnorkelPW
Hi @Zorra ……….thanks for sharing with us. I identified strongly with parts of your share.

I remember when I was in rehab I wrote in my journal, “I don’t know if my depression is the reason for my drinking or if my drinking is the reason for my depression”. Either way, I knew that they were feeding each other and I needed to make change because they were both getting worse. I hated looking at myself in the mirror because I disliked the person I’d become and I was living a long way out of alignment with my values. I desperately wanted change but was unable to maintain it. I was physically reliant on alcohol to get me through each day and i thought there was no hope……….but change is possible.

You’re lucky to have a supportive family and it sounds like they’d support you through the difficult process of changing your alcohol intake. Some things you might find helpful are talking to your GP to support you in cutting down, seeing a drug and alcohol counsellor to talk about strategies for making change, going to AA, attending SMART Recovery………..have you tried any of these things before???

Change for me came through a stint in rehab and connecting with AA. Your journey may involve a different approaches but it’s only through trying them that you’ll be able to figure out what will work best. Finding things to occupy your time will be important too. What are some things you used to do that you don’t do anymore???

I hope some of this helps and if I can support in any way just tag me in your post and I’ll respond when I’m next online.

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2022 10:31 pm
by Jarrah
Hi I'm joining to get some support as I've finally accepted that this shit is hard to do solo!! And I've decided I'd rather throw all the help I can at myself rather than sit in guilt and shame.

I love to nature craft and swim in the ocean.

I'm a parent and mostly a damn good one. But I've let myself and kids down by letting weed get in the way. I'm determined to kick it before they're older and to get my health back as I am overweight and struggle with breathing stuff and I want to be around for them and hopefully one day for my grandies!

I'm surprised I'm here, but grateful I'm taking positive steps to reach my potential and be my best.

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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2022 2:52 am
by Mia_85
Hi I'm Mia I have been battling an ice addiction for 3 years thanks to the help of a violent ex, lost my children due to his violence but have been clean now for about 12 months and have 3 of my 4 children back home with me still just fighting child safety to get my little girl home.

Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2022 3:16 am
by bluebird13
Hi Mia thanks for you post and good on you for been clean, stay strong you can do this. This is a great space to share and get support from others to help encourage you. All the best and reach out for further support if you need. Again good on you for all that you have achieved so far. :-) One of the peer workers will respond when they are next online