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    Lhiver
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Tue Dec 28, 2021 8:40 am

    @PnorkelPW Being able to spend time with your daughter, your-ex and her family is so wonderful! Being able to come together and have a nice lunch together must be so rewarding!

    Families are a fickle thing, and it's difficult and draining hen there are tensions, but it sounds like you've really made the most of the day! I get what you mean though about feeling like the Grinch haha, we aren't a big Christmas family and I think people find it a little odd, but we have our own traditions with some family friends and have been having orphan's Christmas' the past few years!

    I'm looking forward to a new year I will say that, I'd love to know how others are travelling as NYE approaches @Costapo @CourtNeyy @D Block Europe , @recovery21 @Coco98 @SomeoneSomewhere @Ziggy10 @Peter Smith and @Naruto2022
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jan 03, 2022 8:14 pm

    Yeah it's pretty cool @Lhiver.............one of the rewards of recovery

    Welcome to Monday Meetup for the first time this year. Every week I jump on the forums here and surf around replying to various posts. Mondays from 8pm – 10pm and Thursdays from 8pm – 10pm for the Thursday Check-In. It would be great to hear from you about how your week has been, what’s worked and what hasn’t, any questions or thoughts you may have or whatever else is on your mind about addiction or recovery.

    I’ve been in this stint of recovery for a bit over 6 years now after many attempts at getting on track in the years before that. I still have my struggles and am going through some now in regards to addictive behaviours which are part of my story. I don’t need to be using substances to be in active addiction but I’ll keep working on those and try to stay on top. Gambling and sex have managed to have just as detrimental effect on my life as substances because addiction comes in many forms and can impact life negatively by shifting me out of alignment.

    I guess there’s lots I can relate to in addiction………….what’s happening for you?
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jan 10, 2022 8:15 pm

    Another Monday rolls around and I'll be surfing the forums until 10pm. If there's anything on your mind tag me and I'll come back and respond here. Addiction, recovery, trying to make changes, struggling, making headway, got a question, got something to share.................whatever it is let me know and I'll respond as best I can.

    What's on your mind???
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jan 17, 2022 8:21 pm

    Another Monday and the sun was shining. I've been thinking about how much time I've been spending indoors lately and the negative effect it has had on me. The natural vitamin D I get from the sun can not be underestimated and I reckon it plays a big part in me getting the "winter blues"....................I really struggle through winter.

    Anyway..........I spent the morning packing to go away with my daughter tomorrow. I had 5 lists going and was slowly consolidating them and complicating things by organising my organising :lol: . I looked outside and saw the sun and that's when it hit me as to how much time I've spent inside so far this summer and I don't want to look back when daylight savings ends and regret not getting out and about more. Life isn't meant to be lived sitting on a couch although a bit of relaxation is fine.

    A simple day in the end where we went and got some sushi and sat at the beach to eat it. We walked the rocks, checked out the rock pools looking for jellyfish, climbed the hill, watched the windsurfers, sat and listened to the ocean and just enjoyed some sun and fresh air. I've got a great backyard that I don't utilise enough. So that's a goal moving forwards from here..........to get more fresh air when I'm at home. I've even got the hammock staring at me every time I look out there and what's better than chilling in a hammock???

    What's been missing from your summer and what are you going to do to reconcile it?????
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jan 24, 2022 8:22 pm

    Hi All...........how was your weekend???

    What went well?

    What didn't?

    What did you enjoy?

    What sucked?

    I had a friend message me for some advice last night and we messaged for some time. At the end of the chat she thanked me and said she'd love to catch up one night to pull things apart further and have a big D&M........well she actually said "I want to get some MDMA and come round to talk further and have a really big chat". Now.........she knows I'm in recovery. In fact she's very aware of it. My response though had me worried..........I jokingly said "Well just make sure there's enough for two."

    I've been walking a fine line lately and I've spoken to someone today but the fact that I'm joking about this stuff needs to be monitored. I need to be vigilant every day in my recovery. It might sound like a little thing but if I open the door to this stuff and get too jokey with my recovery then I might find myself in a position one day where I'm not fully focused and make a slip that takes me downhill very quickly.

    The question I'm asking myself is if I'm taking my recovery seriously at this point in time...........

    What's been happening for you???
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    Orangegrove
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Thu Feb 10, 2022 1:05 pm

    Hi my frist time here, so thought I would check if the group is still going, as many of the messages I am seeing are old? LOVE to hear back then I will share more
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Thu Feb 10, 2022 10:33 pm

    Hi @Orangegrove, thanks for reaching out and letting us know you're there! I'm @ScorpionPW one of the peer workers here on the forum.

    @PnorkelPW and myself are the peer workers on the forum here. We both have had our own journey through addiction, have found recovery and have now worked in the sector for quite some time.

    We are more than happy to share any experiences, things that have helped us on our journeys, help with any information we can for supports you can access or just provide an environment where you can share what's going on for you knowing that you're being heard and understood by others who have experienced similar distress.

    Whether you keep posting here or in another part of the forums, I am here Monday to Thursday from 8:30pm - 10:00pm and @PnorkelPW is here Mondays and Thursdays 8:00pm - 10:00pm. You can tag either one of us directly in anything you post by pressing @ followed by either ScorpionPW or PnorkelPW

    It would be great to know more about what's happening for you and how we could help :)
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    PnorkelPW
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Feb 14, 2022 8:48 pm

    Hi @Orangegrove and great to have you sharing. @ScorpionPW has mentioned about all I can say to you other than to reiterate the need to tag us so we get a notification to respond.

    I've been just sharing my thoughts on here for a while, I hope to hear more from you soon........great to have you on board
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 06, 2022 6:34 pm

    Hi All……..I hope you had an okay weekend. What did you get up to???

    Mine was simple yet quiet. Spent with my daughter staying warm on the most part but we did get out for a bushwalk on the Saturday. I really wanted to get out while we could because I knew Sunday was going to be colder and wetter and we possibly wouldn’t get the chance. Getting fresh air is important for my mental health and when I haven’t been doing any exercise during the week it becomes even more important.

    As we were out walking I was reminded how much easier it is to talk to people when walking side by side. The conversations I have with my daughter out there are so much more free flowing and she opens up a whole lot more. I remember a couple of years ago having a difficult conversation with my dad who’s not really great at talking about emotional stuff. We were walking with no real intent and the conversation just started. I knew he was uncomfortable but it was just easier walking and talking.

    I feel like I relax more when I’m walking and talking too. I can think more, pause more……….and get off topic more. Things will come up and I’ll go off on a tangent for a bit if it’s getting a bit uncomfortable but I have the space to come back to the conversation too. I’d highly recommend it if you need to have any tough conversations. Or just any conversations. Whenever I have a first date I always suggest a walk and talk with a coffee or something because it helps to hide the nerves and anxiety I feel on first dates.

    When I think about it now it really ticks a heap of boxes. Good conversation, connection, working through difficulties, fresh air, exercise, hopefully finding some solutions……………..and I usually just feel better at the end of it because I have a sense of accomplishment and it’s got me out of the house for a while.

    Thoughts????

    Was there anything that worked well on your weekend???

    Or didn’t work well???
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 13, 2022 8:03 pm

    Hi All……..how was your long weekend?

    Did you have any fun?

    Did you have any struggles??

    What did you do???
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 13, 2022 8:36 pm

    Hi @PnorkelPW,

    My weekend was busy but good. Had Friday night to myself then took the little man for a playdate this morning and a very chilled afternoon.

    How was yours? How was everyone elses?
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    PnorkelPW
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 20, 2022 8:29 pm

    Hi all………….how was your weekend? Did it go to plan or get off track??

    Mine was a real mix. I had Friday off as well and after getting my car serviced I just crashed on the couch in the afternoon. My body was telling me to rest so I listened to it for once, grabbed the couch blanket and had a snooze for a couple of hours……….it was soooo good.

    Saturday I was on a date in the city. My first time at Gold Class to see the new Top Gun and we wandered the city for a couple of hours watching and listening to the buskers. It’s amazing what a cheap night you can have in the city just wandering around. It was a real test for me being at the casino for the movies but I managed to walk away with my recovery in tact……….but it was a struggle. Luckily I was in safe company.

    Sunday was spent doing things that were good for my soul. A sleep in, a swim and a sauna, a walk in the sun along the beachfront and time by the water on my rock meditating in the winter sun getting some winter vitamin D.

    All in all a pretty balanced weekend.

    What about you……………

    @ing @Mangoes @jmcosgrave @Needtogethelp88 @Ai1985 @PhilJ @Crystaleyez @Alikona @aman_ @Crystal1987 @LNolanEYC @Yengarie @Dante @Jess12345 @nv329 @Aj92c @Jjrlangdon001 @Yoges @Army joker @4Jade @ScorpionPW @charlottesometimes @PetaM91

    …………….how were your weekends??? What happened???
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    ScorpionPW
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 20, 2022 8:46 pm

    Listening to your body...I love that @PnorkelPW, I've been trying to do the same thing and actually go to bed when my body is telling me it's time instead of rebelling against myself and staying up watching "one more episode" :lol:

    My weekend was pretty cruisy really, just spent it with the little man playing games, shooting hoops and just resting other than that. I had an amazing experience on Friday night too talking to my sons mother and just feeling blown away that we've arrived at the place we have with a really healthy friendship. We have the ability to co parent, support each other and be honest about our anxieties and limitations. I never would have dreamed in a million years I'd end up in this place with this woman...it never ceases to amaze me what recovery makes possible in the relationships in my life.

    How was everybody elses weekends?
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    PnorkelPW
    Peer Worker
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jun 27, 2022 8:24 pm

    How’s your Monday people??

    My Monday didn’t go to plan. I had hoped to get up early and go for a swim and sauna to start the day but stayed in bed instead. I need to start moving again because I’ve lost my routine and diet and exercise have gone out the window………I’ve put on 3kg in 3-4 weeks. I’m on 2 weeks holiday as of today so if I don’t do something now I’ll end up in a bad place. I’d kinda given up on exercise until next week because my daughter is with me for the school holidays but I realised there is a solution. I can go swimming early in the morning. That means I’m taking action early and getting to things before they get out of control.

    That’s a lesson for recovery. A lesson for when you’re trying to make change. Just doing something to start is more important than constant planning. We can’t jump straight to the place where change has happened but we can get to a place where change is happening. By making little steps towards change we feel better about ourselves and when we feel better about ourselves we are less likely to want to use.

    Rather than sit and wait till I can take a full tilt approach to diet and exercise and let things spiral out of control there are things I can do even though my daughter is here. I can make little changes to my diet this week. I can take her for bike rides and walks. I can get more active and do some little things to give me positive thoughts and feelings. It’s the same with making changes to your using routines. Maybe you’re waiting for detox or rehab but you can cut down. You can start some of the hobbies you’ve been thinking about. You can start to change your routine and do a little bit of exercise. You can…………, you can…………., you can………..

    So what are some little things you can do for yourself?
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    PnorkelPW
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    Re: Monday Meetup - Join us weekly!

    Mon Jul 04, 2022 9:08 pm

    Well another Monday rolls around…………can you believe it’s July already???

    They say time flies and it does. I can’t believe we’re halfway through 2022 and there’s things I was sure I’d have done by now that just aren’t. I try to keep reminding myself that it’s okay………they’ll get done in time or when I’m ready.

    I remember when I was in active addiction how time just slipped away and I was always gonna stop “after this weekend” or “next week” or “after my friend’s birthday” or whatever other event might be coming up. All the while time just slipped away and I slipped further into addiction. I got more and more frustrated with myself and felt more and more hopeless and helpless. Eventually a decision had to be made because “one last blowout” kept happening again and again…………I never thought I was actually capable of stopping. The merry-go-round just continued.

    These days I’m getting more things done……….little things but thy give me a sense of accomplishment. That’s important when you’re trying to make change. Having things to do is important. It doesn’t have to be big stuff………….today for me was about getting my front and back lawns done and I just feel better for it. The weekend involved swimming and bushwalks and cooking and watching footy.

    When I was using I only ever had plans which didn’t happen. I’d end up using or drinking or feeling too crappy to do anything. The only thing I really did was party and when the party stopped happening I was left with using and even that stopped helping me feel good after a while…………but I couldn’t stop.

    So what are your plans?? What is it you want to do??

    What did you have planned for the first half of the year and did you get it all done or have you do you still need to do some of it??..............I know I certainly didn’t and my toilet floor is still cardboard, my laundry is a mess that needs repairing and my bathroom isn’t much better. I’m not in the physical shape I hoped to be and I’ve gone backwards with diet and exercise…………..but there’s another half of the year to try again.

    What’s planned for the second half of the year???



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    @WillTestAccount @4TAH @PocketRocket88 @Mark68 @Borny @Lucky14 @Stormy66 @English muffin @WildeReformed @Xena9492 @cazzo @rlines @ConfettiMoon @Got to fix this @luigi2906 @Flossy1970 @RSR2020 @Banksia* @Julesriley @MissMay @jessiespears @Orangegrove

    ……………..if those questions are too big……..what did you do for your weekend???

    This Monday Meetup space is a chance to share with others and just talk about whatever………….what’s on your mind???
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