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    This is a space visited by peer workers who have a lived experience of addiction and recovery and is an opportunity to relate to and draw hope from those who have been through similar things as you.
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    Re: Addiction and Connection

    Tue Jun 07, 2022 9:23 pm

    Hi @Alunnaria and thanks so much for letting us know where you're at and being so open about what you're struggling with.

    I really relate what @PnorkelPW mentioned in terms of my entire identity and social life being wrapped up in my substance use. It was a real struggle for me in the early days realising that a lot of the meaningful connection I thought I had relied on me using or drinking. I knew that I couldn't be a part of that world anymore but at the same time, it was really lonely and hard at times.

    I think it's great that you're able to maintain work and training as well, it's something you can build upon and I know for me, even when my external world gets small, having something to be accountable to and to give me some purpose is so so helpful.

    I can only share from my own experience and the thing that really aided me more than anything else with this was going to peer groups. Attending 12 step meetings helped me to build a new community around me that was recovery focussed and I was able to build friendships that were much more genuine than any I had before getting into recovery. Being around like minded people who understood what I was going through because they had either been through or were going through it themselves helped to normalise the roller coaster ride that is early recovery for me.

    I'm wondering if you've ever tried any support groups before or whenever you've stopped, you've just tried to tackle it alone? I only ask because I tried to stop many times and will power would only get me so far. It was only when I stopped trying to white knuckle it and open myself up to a recovery community that things really changed for me.

    It would be great to hear how you're going with it all and if anything you've seen on the forums has landed for you at all? :)
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    Re: Addiction and Connection

    Tue Aug 23, 2022 8:46 pm

    Am having some really diffcult weeks, with my Dad's diagnosis so raw, am feeling so disconnected and sad.
    Hubby's lovely, but so different to how I deal with things.
    He seems somewhat harsh, yet still making sense. Aarrgh!!!!
    Love him to death, but need ------ empathy??? or t least a vague understanding of where I am coming from, he's trying to support me, but it feels like judgement some of the time.
    Feel so tired of having to explain, help him understand where I am different fo him, know he's comng from love, but feeling misunderstood, flat and tired.
    As a mother hen, I feel too far away to help or maintain my normal role. A role expectected of me-------------------forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    But, I'm having trouble letting go, allowing others to step into my shoes/role.

    Am just a bit lost

    I will be ok
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    Re: Addiction and Connection

    Wed Aug 24, 2022 5:00 am

    @Iwillbeok it can feel so isolating when we reach out to someone to share our feelings only to have them to respond with advice. It's often not the sort of support that we're after. Do you have anyone in your life who is able to hold space for you, where you can feel heard and understood and connected?
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    Peer Worker
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    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Addiction and Connection

    Wed Sep 28, 2022 8:58 pm

    Hi @Iwillbeok,

    I know it's been a little while since you posted this but just thought I would touch base...

    I can really relate to what you're saying. In the sense that sometimes we just need to be heard, validated and empathised with in what we are experiencing. We're not always seeking solutions and I know that for myself, it's so important to just be given the space to be where I am. If I'm seeking solutions or help I will ask for it.

    I'm really sorry to hear about your dad as well, it must be really hard sitting with that.

    Anyway just thought I'd see how you're going and remember, you can always reach out and tag us if you ever want to touch base and have a chat.

    Hope you continue to reach out :)
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