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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 225
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Thu Jul 22, 2021 9:47 pm

    Hi @Annie2405,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and being so open and honest with us about what's going on. It must take a lot of courage and it helps us all so well done for sharing :)

    I remember times when I was drinking and using in secret and when I tried to seek help people would say similar things to me, like it couldn't be bad enough for me to need to detox. It was a terrible consequence that my dishonesty had caused that when I needed help I ended up alone.

    Well done not drinking for 3 days, thats a huge effort! I'm just wondering if you experienced any withdrawal symptoms just out of concern for how stopping drinking cold turkey can be dangerous?

    Try not to be too hard on yourself for lapsing aswell. Sometimes it's just the nature of it and it can be 2 steps forward and 1 step back. It can be a rocky journey in the early days of recovery but just keep reaching out and keep trying. At the end of the day addiction doesn't make sense and I know for myself that in the times that I picked up, sometimes there was no rhyme or reason to it. It was just what happened until I learnt new ways of coping with life.

    Have you accessed any other help or would you like any information about any other supports you can access? In the forms of any peer groups or otherwise?
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 225
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Thu Jul 22, 2021 9:56 pm

    Wow, it sounds kind of like living a double life @WildeReformed. I can imagine that could be difficult to hold and take a lot of energy to keep the fronts going at times. I only say that because whenever I was trying to make the rest of the world believe that everything was ok when I was crumbling inside I could only ever keep it going for so long.

    Can I just say as well, that the fact that you are doing this without any extra support is amazing and you must be somebody who is incredibly strong and resilient.

    I'm wondering if you've ever been to any peer groups before, like 12 step groups or SMART recovery or anything like that? And if you feel like you might benefit from going to a place where you can connect with other people in recovery who get it and who you don't have to be a "chameleon" in front of so to speak :D
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    Alvarosyd
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Apr 21, 2021 2:24 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Thu Jul 22, 2021 10:22 pm

    Welcome @Annie2405

    I was in a similar situation with my ex. I was so criticised for being a lightweight or an addict. It caused me so much pain I would leave the house and go to the pub and go home completely wasted when my partner was in bed . If he wasn’t in bed I would continue drinking in the garage until that anxiety and pain for being near someone who was judging me went away. Things got worse and I started throwing up every day after drinking. My partner started having physical fights and then it was enough for me!

    The best thing I did was to decide what I prioritise the most in my life, and that was my health. I needed to let go of anything that didn’t add positivity to my life.

    For my 30th bday this year I had so much to drink. The day after was 3 months ago and that day was the day I quit. I would be lying if I said I havent missed a beer or 30, but I prefer my mornings now.

    What I also noticed was a negative cycle

    You drink at late arvo/night time
    Then you wake up with a hungover and you have no willingness to do anything during the day apart from thinking where and when the next drink will be!

    I just needed that one fresh morning to hold onto and choose something I really loved and that was to go back to sport! That makes me so tired that I don’t have power to ask for a beer!

    Diverting the addiction to a positive place (Sport) has been very helpful . If you have any passions that you haven’t explored, maybe try going back to it and socialise with people with the same interests :)

    I wish you a very good journey ahead!
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
    Posts: 252
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Fri Jul 23, 2021 11:43 am

    welcome to out newest community member @Amanda75

    Counselling Online is a space to share your goals and journey and connect with others for support! This is a judgement free space. This thread here is to introduce yourself, you might like to start by sharing a bit of your story and what brought you here today :D
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
    Posts: 252
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Sat Jul 24, 2021 11:29 am

    good morning and welcome to @Jess Bell, @Hairylegs20, @Improve myself and @danz77 !

    The Counselling Online Forums are a judgement free space to share your recovery journey and connect with others who have lived experience. :D

    When you feel comfortable you can post a little bit about yourself here!
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    WildeReformed
    Junior Member
    Posts: 24
    Joined: Thu Jul 15, 2021 2:46 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Sat Jul 24, 2021 7:23 pm

    Hi @Annie2405

    Congratulations on making 3 days. It's an accomplishment which you should celebrate. Not everyone's path is linear and there will be times when we take a step back before we go forward again. I'm a living testament to that!

    Sometimes we reach out for our familiar habits before we realise what we are doing. We can also reach out for it without initially understanding the cause. I find that after some time to reflect the reasoning will appear. Sometimes it's been a smell, an old routine, leaving a bottle out or something that I used to use, even just wanting to celebrate my accomplishment and not knowing a way to do it that didn't involve the very thing I was trying to leave behind.

    Good on you for reaching out :)
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    WildeReformed
    Junior Member
    Posts: 24
    Joined: Thu Jul 15, 2021 2:46 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Sat Jul 24, 2021 7:58 pm

    @ScorpionPW Thank you. I haven't really tried any programs but I suppose I'm open to them. At the very beginning, I tried going to a few group sessions in a church but I didn't really go long enough to feel comfortable and I ended up leaving the area not long after. I've just moved around a lot since then so I never stayed in one spot long enough. I did find a pamphlet for another group at work the other day and thought about it but I'm in a pretty small town...and I work at a pharmacy so I'm not really sure I want people to know...
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    Peace Dove
    Community Builder
    Posts: 255
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:22 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Sun Jul 25, 2021 11:19 am

    Welcome to our newest members @Newlife21, @Tiwi2607, @Drew A and @taylor2021!

    The forums are safe and non-judgemental space to share and connect with other people that have gone through similar experiences. A good place to start navigating the forums is the Peers for peers section.
    Please feel free to post an intro about yourselves. Would be great to know what brought you to the forums.

    Looking forward to reading you around. :D
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    Peace Dove
    Community Builder
    Posts: 255
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:22 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Mon Jul 26, 2021 11:54 am

    Welcome to our newest members @lj97, @Moula and @Elron!

    In the forums you'll find other people with similar experiences, some very useful information/advice and the support of the community. Please feel free to introduce yourselves and don't hesitate to ask any questions, we're here to help.

    Looking forward to reading you around in the forums.
    :)
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    ScorpionPW
    Peer Worker
    Posts: 225
    Joined: Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:06 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Mon Jul 26, 2021 9:25 pm

    I can understand the challenge of living in a small town and wanting to maintain your anonymity @WildeReformed. I grew up and got recovery in a very small town but it was lucky for me that I wasn't in a position where I had to worry about being judged professionally due to the stigma attached to suffering from addiction. There is lots of groups on Zoom. Like 12 step groups and SMART Recovery as well.

    That's great that you found a group you've been thinking about checking out as well. Did you want any info on how to access groups online?
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
    Posts: 252
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Tue Jul 27, 2021 10:03 am

    Goodmorning and welcome to our new members @Lizzie2beac, @Littlewombat , @mooseowl65 and @Flower77 !

    The Counselling Online Forums are here for you to share your goals and journey through recovery! You can connect with others in our Peers for Peers threads, and share and receive support from others!

    What brought you to the forums? :D
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    Peace Dove
    Community Builder
    Posts: 255
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:22 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:10 pm

    Welcome to our newest member @Already registered!

    Please feel free to post an intro about yourself and let us know if you have any questions we can help out with.

    Looking forward to hearing your story. :D
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    Peace Dove
    Community Builder
    Posts: 255
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:22 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Wed Jul 28, 2021 11:04 am

    Welcome to our newest member @Barbara-Jo, @Paddy31 and @RBM!

    Please feel free to post an intro of yourselves or ask here any questions you might have about the forums. You might want to have a look at the Peers for Peers section. :)

    Looking forward to seeing you around in the forums.
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    Lhiver
    Community Builder
    Posts: 252
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 9:59 am

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Fri Jul 30, 2021 8:37 am

    @Babushka , @Purevil92 , @Tsuki11 , @Simonek1 , and @CassSass17 Welcome to The Counselling Online Forum! The forums are a place for you to share your story, find support from others and get some information and tips on going through recovery! :D

    This thread here is to introduce yourself, when you feel ready you can post here and maybe share a little about what brought you to the forums.
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    WildeReformed
    Junior Member
    Posts: 24
    Joined: Thu Jul 15, 2021 2:46 pm

    Re: Introduce yourself here - lived experience

    Fri Jul 30, 2021 5:53 pm

    @ScorpionPW It is challenging. I probably should have told them when I got the job but I didn't. I would really like information on any zoom groups. It's been helpful to have this community to reach out to.
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